Wow, this is new to me! Great idea and I loved the examples. Normally, I'd apply to job-listings / respond to headhunters when job searching! Definitely going to try this approach later this year ... 👏🏻
Hey Lachlan I like your blog! This is the first time I truly saw "sample messages" attached by the writer - really appreciate your openness.
One anxiety I always have when reaching out is - I feel asking for help is a binary deadend. If I receive a "no" from one person, I feel I will never be able to ask again from them. So I tend to be super cautious about every favor I ask for. Especially when people do not reply, I take it not only as a no but also "I do not know you well". And I also feel it's hard to ask for referral from connections I just made through 1-2 calls. How do you think about it?
I totally understand and can personally relate to this concern. I think it's wise to be reasonably judicious about when you ask people for help, but in general I think most of us don't ask for help from others enough. Rather than ask less, I try to explain the problem I'm facing and what exactly I'm asking them for help with as succinctly as possible and then respect if they say No. If you're still concerned, you can always ask yourself is this really the best person to ask around my specific question but I think so long as you do those things I would err on the side of asking for help more often than less often. Does that help?
Wow, this is new to me! Great idea and I loved the examples. Normally, I'd apply to job-listings / respond to headhunters when job searching! Definitely going to try this approach later this year ... 👏🏻
Really enjoying your insights and experiences!
This was an insightful read! This actually inspired me to reach out to you for a referral. Glad I did!
I’m so glad! Really enjoyed chatting with you, keep in touch!
Hey Lachlan I like your blog! This is the first time I truly saw "sample messages" attached by the writer - really appreciate your openness.
One anxiety I always have when reaching out is - I feel asking for help is a binary deadend. If I receive a "no" from one person, I feel I will never be able to ask again from them. So I tend to be super cautious about every favor I ask for. Especially when people do not reply, I take it not only as a no but also "I do not know you well". And I also feel it's hard to ask for referral from connections I just made through 1-2 calls. How do you think about it?
Hey Iris thanks for your message!
I totally understand and can personally relate to this concern. I think it's wise to be reasonably judicious about when you ask people for help, but in general I think most of us don't ask for help from others enough. Rather than ask less, I try to explain the problem I'm facing and what exactly I'm asking them for help with as succinctly as possible and then respect if they say No. If you're still concerned, you can always ask yourself is this really the best person to ask around my specific question but I think so long as you do those things I would err on the side of asking for help more often than less often. Does that help?